Hey all– back and ready to respond!
And I took some time to do so… here’s why. LKT when I read your post I was so incredibly taken out, for half a day. First, I was mad at myself for even being on forum, as that wasn’t my commitment. Second, it triggered a lot of my own stuff thats been coming up around AC. Then I think it also just really pissed me off 🙂
At first I had to put my phone away and just try and breath, but I couldn’t get your words and what I was thinking out of my head. I then realized this was such a gift of Be With for me. My automatic is to need to fix and clean up immediately, which often times has me stop what I am doing and do whatever needs to be done for AC. I have a running practice each week with my coach if I did this or not. For the last 2 years my habit has been that no matter what I am doing if something AC arises- a text, email, call, etc- I drop everything and do that. That didn’t serve me at all (in the long run) though it did make me reliable as hell.
Anywho, the post gave me the opportunity to challenge myself to sincerely let it go until my vacation was over. To be where I was knowing it was all okay, there was no one I needed to be, nothing I needed to say, until I returned. And to be honest I even pondered doing so at all- as it seemed like such a past based conversation. It was such a great lesson that nothing needs to be rushed, none of this is life or death, and its all good.
So I am happy to share within a day I truly released it, and though I was so angry and upset for awhile, I came out the other side really calm and in love. Which was exactly what I needed– as it had sent me down a dark road of why am I even doing this, that for a few hours, and to be honest like a day, I got scared of. It broke my heart and made me really anxious to think what if I am done with this? But with time and patience, I got some great insight and breath.
Back to your post and the questions:
Regarding generating the teams full alignment- you are absolutely right, I did not take the time or effort to get everyone’s. And I see how this occurred in my vision of like top down leadership or something. Kerry Jeff and I had spoken about it multiple times on our calls, that I totally stopped there versus making sure everyone was fully in the know and getting alignment on Production/Co coaching. This is what I would except of anyone else, and I apologize for the breakdown that had me not create that as a team. Thanks so much for calling it out.
Intention around enrollment: CORRECT! It was very much my intention not to bring this as enrollment but as asking for alignment. One of the things I have created with myself this year, is pausing before saying/writing something on forum, and looking at my intention and what I am training team in. What I was looking to create was a very simple shared and straight forward request of alignment. Here’s why- I have it that all of us are already completely enrolled in each others lives working out the way we deeply with them to. We want each other to have healthy relationships, bustling businesses, amazing travel/vacation, money, growth, etc. Thus, I have always felt enrolling each other in this seems a bit silly. We all want each other to have it all, so when an opportunity comes, asking for enrollment to take it seems unnecessary and odd. Where I see we need to create enrollment is when our commitments may be at seemingly odds. IE missing a weekend, going away for an extended period of time, not being able to coach our participants, etc. And not from Rule, but from us doing the work to see how this dual commitment is in service of what we are up to, and the current breakthroughs we are working on. I totally get that my view of alignment an enrollment might be different than some of you, and that might be a pretty cool conversation to have. Or maybe thats just me being a Semantics Nerd??
It has been established both in the room and on calls that I am working on breakthroughs in well being, and partnership- i.e. not controlling and managing and really trusting that you all got it. That all being said, I saw this as an opportunity to ask for alignment inside of what you all are aware of and committed to me generating. I also so this as an opportunity to shift the context that vacations, missing calls, asking something of our team needing to be complicated and hard. I notice a theme of making things bigger than they are, or putting energy into the minute details, where we could be playing for something bigger.
I do see how I could have made this more clear, and even what was possible by putting that on loud speaker, so I appreciate you giving me the opportunity to see that. Please let me know if there was anything unclear, or that I missed.
LKT can you clear this up for me? Im actually not clear what it is you are pointing to here: “Simply tracking the posts on this thread, I notice that I would not be aligned if any one of us brought it the way you did, and I’m curious if you’re present to what you may have just trained us in.” And similar to what T brought, my experience of your relationship and stand for enrollment is that it be complicated and rigorous. Im curious what you see for yourself around this? And if you are aware you often send this message?
Happy to be home and be with you all this week!