Waaaow. I kind of love and hate this all at once. I’m so triggered by his being triggered by women. How funny.
J, did you reflect that life is full of women regardless where he lives and this would be a great place for him to work past whatever this discomfort is?
I also hear intense integrity, to the point that whatever rules he’s made up about integrity are in the way of the life he wants.
last thing I’ll put in, which I might get in trouble for, we’ll see – I tell Jack whatever I like about AC. I don’t tell him every detail, but the big stuff, and definitely the stuff that’s going on with me, I spill like a wide water glass falling to the ground.
ryan might be one of the youngest people to do this program, and I’m sure he’s still figuring out who he is, and I’m so clear that this will be an experience that allows him to choose his path, right from the start of adulthood.
Just wanted to bring this conversation to forum so everyone is in the loop. Ryan K. has requested to withdraw from the program. I spoke to him yesterday for about 45 min and the whole conversation seemed wonky.
His objections to staying in the program are 1) the program having both women and men 2) having intimate vulnerable conversations with women 3) having to support women on the team (buddies) 4) not being able to share conversations from the program with his fiance because of confidentiality. I asked him if he trusted himself and he went around the answer. He said yes but in a round about way and never answering directly. The other things that stood out to me on the conversation was him mentioning “I feel weird talking to my buddy (Brittany) in one room while my fiance is in the other room.” I could tell that he didn’t feel comfortable opening up to me from the start of the call and there was stuff he was not willing to sharing.
So where we left it is that Jeff is going to connect with him on Monday. I am still relating to him as in. He was open to having another call with me on Monday. I am going to have Jeff talk to him first and we can go from there.